Let’s talk about wedding thank you note etiquette.
Thank you notes should be sent to everyone who helped to make your wedding day special.
Are you unsure whether you should send a thank-you note to a certain guest? It’s better to be safe than sorry. For each gift you receive, you should send a thank-you note.
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Time Frame for Sending Your Thank You Notes
A six-week period. You’ve got six weeks. Your wedding guests shouldn’t feel forgotten. When they receive your thank you note, they should remember the wedding.
In addition, you’ll want to get this chore out of the way. By setting a reasonable deadline, you are less likely to procrastinate.
Thank you notes for bridal showers should be sent out more quickly. You won’t be on your honeymoon, and there will be fewer letters to send. After the bridal shower, wait 7 – 15 days before the wedding. Yes, if you receive a bridal shower gift and a wedding gift, you’ll need to write a note for each.
Anatomy of a Wedding Thank You Note
All wedding thank you notes should contain a few elements.
- Thank the guest for attending (obviously)
- Mention the gift they gave, and describe your plans for it
- Mention some sort of personal anecdote
This last point is important. You don’t want your thank you notes to appear too generic. If you’re writing 100 or more notes, this can be difficult. So, always mention something personal, either from the wedding or from your past.
A few examples:
You and Terry were really dancing up a storm at the reception. I had no idea you had such good moves! As soon as Tom and I get back from Paris, you and I need to plan another hike. I had such a great time last fall. Maybe weâ€™ll see another baby deer!
It makes the writing process much more interesting if these anecdotes are included. And your friends will appreciate the extra attention.
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Tips for Getting it Done
Irrespective of whether you enjoy writing thank you notes, you’re going to want to keep organized and have a system to produce them on time. You don’t often have to write so many letters at once in your life.
These tips will help you write them without tearing out your hair.
Keep track of everything with a spreadsheet. In the first column, list every person or couple you need to write a note to. In the second column, list their wedding gift. Use the third column to indicate whether or not you’ve written and sent them a note.
Share the list with your spouse. You and your spouse can sign them together, but you should write notes for the guests you know best, and vice versa.
Organize your supplies. Keep all of your stationery, pens (black is best), envelopes, and address book in one place. By leaving your supplies out, you’ll have a visual reminder to trigger your writing each day.
Write a certain number of notes per day. Decide how many days you have until all the notes need to be sent. Divide the number of notes you need to write by the number of days. The bare minimum you should aim for every day is this.
There is nothing worse than feeling as if you have to write 50 notes in one afternoon. If you and your spouse write five notes per day, you will have more than enough time to complete your list.